Discussion Time!!! – Real vs. Fictional Significant Other

Reading Challenges: #Let'sDiscuss2016

I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I will admit to reading way, way too many romance novels. I love them. I love a good love story. Nothing like a couple meeting, falling in love, fighting the attraction, admitting their love and ending up happily ever after. That’s not real life, and I’ve learned that the hard way. (Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but he’s no book romeo.) In this short amount of sentences I have digressed…

While reading a romance or any story for that fact, do you wish you could or were reading a story where the characters were similar to you and your significant other (or wannabe significant other)? Not until I started dating my boyfriend did I want this. Why? Well, I don’t throw it out there but if you follow me on Instagram or my personal Facebook you know that my boyfriend is black. Not only is he black, but he’s very nerdy…which was what attracted me most to him. What’s the problem? Well there aren’t many, or rather I haven’t been able to find many, interracial romance books or books in general. Ok, I take that back…I can find BWWM (Black Woman White Man) but I definitely can’t relate to those. And most of them are more erotic than I’d like. I want a good story, romance or not, but hey most books have romance in them, where the woman is white and the man is preferably a nerdy black guy. Is that too much to ask?

I do realize that as the reader I can visualize how the characters look, but sometimes it would nice if there was already a story that I wouldn’t have to.

What about you? Do you like to read stories/books where the characters are like you and/or significant other? 


  1. Well this is a VERY interesting discussion! I totally see why you would want that- and should really have that! There was a book I read relatively recently that had a white MC and she had this fabulously nerdy and and sweet black boyfriend! It was Rules for 50/50 Chances by Kate McGovern, if you feel like checking it out!

    As for me…. it’s a loaded and complicated question. I guess maybe if I were in a happy and fulfilling relationship, then yes? But I mean, I read to escape the things I don’t like about my life so… yeah, no 😀 Love this post!
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    1. Thank you for the recommendation. I will definitely have to check that one out! Yeah, before I was in a happy and fulfilling relationship, the male character didn’t make a different to me, so I see your point as well.

      Thanks for taking the time to not only read this post but to also comment. I was a little worried about the subject matter, but end the end I figured it is my blog and I can talk about what I want LOL.

  2. I often think about this too. My husband isn’t black, but he’s on the nerdy side (he’d be the first to admit he’s a computer geek) and I often wish that the nice, slightly geeky guy would be featured more often (without getting a makeover so that he’s suddenly completely hunky!).

    As a side note, my son IS black, and I often wish that interracial families in general were featured more often.

    Two books that I can think of with black leading men and white women – the Storm Siren series (though Eogan is a typical suave fantasy leading man – not at all nerdy). And Until You Find Me by Amber Hart – which I picked up specifically because I was happy to see the interracial romance. (Unfortunately, that one might be a bit racier than you’re hoping for – and it takes place in Africa … so, you know … probably doesn’t match your life experience all that much.) 🙂
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    1. Yes regardless of race, there need to be more needy leading men (completely hunky or not).

      I will definitely look into those Amber Hart books (I’ve already looked them up and just my style LOL). Thank you for the recommendations. I appreciate you taking the time no only view my discussion post but to also comment.

  3. You know, normally I would think that there is a genre/book out there for ever type of reader. But obviously that is not the case. But there’s no reason why there shouldn’t be! I don’t think I’ve ever actually read an interracial romance but I did find the GoodReads list that is specifically devoted to interracial romances that are more sweet than steamy. Maybe there is something there that will catch your eye?
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  4. I definitely do! I haven’t found a book with a character that’s a lot like me (not counting those girl characters who like reading books), so it would definitely be cool if I did. Since I’m not exactly white and I’m taller than the average female out there, it’s a bit hard to find a girl in a book with the same characteristics as me. xD Great post!
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  5. While we all love to escape reality, it’s also really important to have our reality represented in books, otherwise it feels both like “books aren’t for people like me,” and “people like me don’t have worthy stories.” So YES there should be more books about interracial couples and families!

    In All The Rage, by Courtney Summers, the narrator is white and the love interest, who is one of the only decent young men in the book, is black. That’s all I got. I’m going to keep my eye out though!

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